Co-parenting Like A Pro During Graduation
Co-parenting without conflict. Is that even possible when you have a difficult Ex? You can’t control how your Ex or their new partner may act or react, but you have 100% control over your actions and reactions.
“Time moves fast and stands still all at once in parenting.”
Four years ago I was preparing to send my oldest off to college and now we are preparing to celebrate his college graduation. I am grateful that we will be able to see him reach this milestone in person as so many of my friends had to watch their child walk across the stage via live stream.
Graduations, weddings, birthdays and other milestone events can bring stress and anxiety for divorced families. A time of celebration and joy for your children can be dampened by anger, fear, and mistrust between parents.
Co-parenting has many challenges especially during graduation and wedding season. But you can co-parent like a pro with these helpful tips.
Want to avoid conflict with your co-parent on your child’s big day?
Focus on your Child:
Remember whose day it is. Do you want your child to look back and remember a day filled with tension arguing, and petty comments? Or do you want your child to have positive memories of a day that only happens once?
Sideline the Drama:
Your child’s milestone event is not the time for parents to pick fights with one another. Animosity that has festered for years won’t disappear overnight, but you get to decide how you will show up and how you will act or react.
Adopt a Spirit of Compromise:
Allow your child to enjoy time with both parents. Putting your child in the middle (even adult children) can cause unnecessary stress and emotional turmoil. The reality of co-parenting may mean you have to share the day.
Set an Expectation of Success:
If you decide that the day will be free from conflict-guess what, the day will be free from conflict. Even if your co-parent wants to engage in negative banter, you don’t have to participate. The choice to escalate or reduce conflict is 100% in your control.
Did you know that as a divorce coach I work with clients post divorce to improve communication and build better relationships with your kids and your Ex?
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